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A Morning View Near the Wood Stove

(Authors Note: Today I am being more vulnerable in my post. This is not a red flag about me, but an encouragement for you. We can never be who God intends us to be if we remain who we are!) 

I have often heard the words, "Stop trying so hard."

For various reasons, which I choose not to share, I have always been a people pleaser. I so badly desire people to have love and harmony in their live that I go to the end of the earth to make them laugh, try to make them happy and please them so that everything is alright. I do not like "feeling" like life and others are out of balance. It becomes easy to blame myself for the perceived failure. It is "always" my fault. 

Sometimes I yearn so badly for approval and acceptance that I push away and hurt the ones I care for the most and desire approval and acceptance from,  because I try so hard. As confident, friendly and all together as I may portray myself to be, I can be deeply empty, alone and afraid. Often I find myself paralyzed without the ability to function and finish whatever is before me and see others succeed from the outside while yearning for more on the inside. I often fail not because I am not able, but because of fear. 

PLEASE, I write from the heart not for your attention, approval and all kinds of well meaning posts. I share this because I do not believe I am alone in my experience! I am walking a journey of healing with counseling as well as with others who are close to me. I am on my healthy path toward healing while experiencing speed bumps along the way. But if you struggle like I then you need to begin to seek healing in your lives. You will never be who God intends you to be without allowing yourself to begin to heal. 

“For the Kingdom of God is not a matter of what we eat or drink, but of living a life of goodness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. If you serve Christ with this attitude, you will please God, and others will approve of you, too. So then, let us aim for harmony in the church and try to build each other up.” - Romans 14:17-19 NLT

So, "Stop trying so hard" and seek God.

Peace,
PB 

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